Showing Appreciation

As those that keep up with me know, I am a single mom with two kids. I do the occasional dating thing....But I will NOT get involved deeply with someone because I am running my own business and don't want to get caught up in the "Can't wait to see you" or Can't wait to talk to you again" theme. I know I am prioritizing way differently than most would. But, I have to do things this way. My way!

I'm writing a post about showing appreciation where it is due..... I have moved on as well as my ex...And, even though I may not agree with certain situations involving my son and the "girlfriend" I do have to be honest and sit back and take notice.....

So many times couples break up and it's bitter.... And when there are children involved, it seems to make the moving on even harder. Unless of course, the break up was done in a nasty way like it was in my case.

It's funny... I was listening to WMMS today... The Maxwell Show.... I hate it, but it was on and I was listening... There was a man on the radio saying how he had his girlfriend living with him and found out she was cheating on him... He wanted to know how to get rid of her....

I am amazed at how shallow men are... If there is a woman living with you, in your house, and all the bills are in your name... and you find out she is cheating,.... Then ask her to leave!!! What woman would stay if the man she is with, asks her to leave? No one I know. Ask me to leave, and I am gone...But this guy called in asking for advice.... There is no advice....Ask her to leave and if she does not, then slap her with an eviction notice...... SIMPLE!!!

So when times passes and you find your ex happy.... With another woman......Succeeding in life....Achieving what he desires....Let him or her know that you are happy for them. And even if you disagree with some of the way things are handled between the new girlfriend or boyfriend and your children. ....Sit back and take notice....

When you learn to open your heart... Admit that someone else IS the match for your ex that you were not.....That your ex is happy....And the new girlfriend or boyfriend don't mean to do certain things or say certain things that may upset your children....You have to swallow your pride, pick up the phone and thank them for being important in your exes life and your childrens life.

My ex and I are exes for a reason... We did not work... I don't want him hurt.... Nor my son. If I found out that my ex was being mistreated, I would feel hurt, sad and want to try to help... But really, there is nothing I could do..... But when children are involved, I have every right to step in and speak.

I hope to come up with the courage to pick the phone up and call the girlfriend and let her know that I appreciate the touch she has made on my son....And my daughter really cares about her and she needs to know that as well..... It's up to me to let her know that I think she is doing an ok job in impressing my children....and making my ex happy.... That's all I could ask for.

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Choose Your Words Carefully

As a woman running my own business, I had to learn something that is essential. "Blocking Out Negativity". You know those comments such as "You are not gonna make it" or "Cindy, It's not going to work" or my most favorite is the "Why don't you go get a real job".....

I've also come to realize that it's only their own thoughts and beliefs that would make a person say such things. If they don't think it would work for them, then they don't think it's going to work for you. You need to block out the negativity...That Simple!

I believe that's a skill that children need to learn at a young age as well....Too many times there are people that say hurtful things to a child. Whether you are arguing with your child or a statement just rolls off the tongue, you need to realize when something hurtful was said and then apologize for saying so.

I don't believe in taking personal issues or concerns that a child or even an adult may have about themselves and then use it in any manner against them. Let's take a persons weight for example.

If you have a few extra pounds, the chances are that you don't feel as good about yourself as you could. Now, when this is the case of a child and a comment is made about their weight...Whether it's jokingly or you meant to say it....You need to stop and realize that you just hurt someones feelings. Do you know what is going through their thoughts? Do you realize the hurt you just added to their heart? How a comment can slowly destroy their self confidence....Make them feel LESS..... Just because they will become an adult one day does not mean that the hurtful comments will just disappear... They will linger in the back of their minds and stay in their heart, and even grow right along with them.

Makes me wonder how a parent would feel if your child made a hurtful comment about your weight or even your partners weight? I bet most parents would approach the child and point out how they said something that was hurtful....Some may even make the child apologize to the adult. Hmmm... What a concept... I think the adult needs to apologize to the child as well.

My Quote Of The Day; Choose Your Words Carefully.

Compartmentalize - A Prerequisite For Success

Compartmentalization is a critical step to achieving goals and getting the results you want in life.

After you establish your goals and priorities for a day, hour, or a particular meeting or project you must compartmentalize.

Compartmentalization means focusing on each individual item without letting any one activity encroach upon the timing and effectiveness of any other.

It's easier said than done, however if you want to achieve your goals in the fastest manner possible you must take the following steps to maximize your ability to compartmentalize:

* WRITE down every action you plan to take.

Underperformers keep their goals in their head while high achievers put their plans to paper in an organized manner. After you've committed your priorities to paper, you gain clarity and control which allows you to free your mind of worry and anticipation.

* CROSS items off your list.

A feeling of accomplishment precedes a completed item. Every action moves you one step closer to your desired goal and ideal outcome.

* CONCENTRATE on the present.

Focus on the here and now, you cannot change the past nor can you control the future.

If you find that you are having trouble compartmentalizing your time and activities, look at your list and remind yourself of what's most important - your current focus. Like a rubber band, this will snap you back to the matter at hand.

When you walk out the door in the morning and see this in the sky............just go back inside, have another cup of coffee, and stay home. It is NOT going to be a good day.

If I could tell you that there is a way to work at home, earning REAL income to help supplement your income, would you continue reading? Of course you would.....You would, at least read a little further to find out what the fine print is....

But what if I said there was no fine print....There is no selling....No taking orders.....No carrying inventory....Yes! That's what I am saying.

If you want to be salesman, then join Avon or Mary Kay......But direct sales is not what I was looking for. If someone did not follow through with their order, then I would be stuck paying for their order. And that's NOT what I was looking for.

I wanted something that would not fall out of the cracks...Would not get old and be replaced with something else new that comes along......Something that was recession proof.... Not run out of demand... Not get old....That would not be replaceable....Or even duplicatable....I wanted the sure fire way of working at home that could carry me and my family throughout many years to come.

I am talking about TRUE, residual income.....Do something once, and get paid over and over and over again....And that's what I am doing..... I am building my business so that I can leave it to my children and know that they will be taken care of financially.

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Learning to live in the heart and manage your energies from the heart is an empowering and enlightening process. It progressively unfolds your greatest potentials. When you lead from your heart, you come to appreciate all of your past experiences as part of your learning and growing. A balanced approach to growth requires appreciating yourself not only when things are going well, but especially when you have a setback. Appreciate whatever progress you make, and then use that energy of appreciation to move forward.


Cindy Ashworth is a single, work at home mom. Providing a REAL work at home business with one on one coaching and mentoring. The way it should be! Also the owner of www.asinglewahm.blogspot.com and www.mykidsmywhy.com.

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Parents, Doctors, Nurses to Johnson & Johnson: Make Safer Baby Products

San Francisco — Concerned about cancer-causing chemicals, more than 40 organizations representing 1.7 million parents, health care providers and environmental health advocates delivered a letter today to Johnson & Johnson (NYSE: JNJ) urging the company to remove toxic ingredients from its popular baby products. Click here to view the letter.

The letter, signed by the American Nurses Association, Physicians for Social Responsibility, the National Association of Pediatric Nurse Practitioners, MomsRising and many others, urges Johnson & Johnson to remove formaldehyde, 1,4-dioxane and other hazardous chemicals from personal care products by the end of 2009.

A March 2009 report by the Campaign for Safe Cosmetics found formaldehyde and 1,4-dioxane in Johnson’s Baby Shampoo and other top-selling children’s bath products. Both chemicals are known to cause cancer in animals and are listed as probable human carcinogens by the Environmental Protection Agency.

Read The Whole Story Here: http://www.safecosmetics.org/article.php?id=518